Solar Eclipse: Dealing with the fear of change and uncertainty

Solar eclipses can be tough periods of change and uncertainty. This is an especially difficult eclipse as we haven’t had a visible, total solar eclipse in the USA in about 100 years. And we can already see how much unrest and turmoil this eclipse is bringing forth.

If you walk a spiritual path you know you can pick up emotions, fears, and doubts from others as well as having your own. During this period, or any eclipse period for that matter, it’s important to be aware and accepting of the feelings you’re having.

Don’t judge the emotions that come up for you at this time.

Feelings you have are not necessarily a portent of something bad that’s coming nor are they confirmation of your worse fears. They should not be seen as anything accept a part of you that wants your attention. The best way to handle these feelings is to say, “I’m acknowledging that I’m having these feelings and it’s okay”.

Give yourself a hug.

Treat yourself, during this time, with the same love, understanding and compassion you would give a child who was feeling sad or afraid. Take a few minutes, shut off the distractions, set down the phone and just be still. Breathe and as you exhale release the negativity. As you inhale bring in feelings of love. After a few minutes have a glass of water to finish the clearing.

This eclipse is going to bring some very needed changes into our lives. We will look back on this period and say we’re glad it happened. In the meantime be kind to yourself through this process.

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The Solar Eclipse – 3 steps to using this energy for your highest good

On August 21st we will experience a total solar eclipse. To quote my dear friend and mentor, Diane Ronngren, an eclipse is a time to find new ways to express who you are by recognizing and overcoming emotional blocks.

Basically this is an opportunity to leap forward on the road to your goals. Eclipses bring change. Sometimes these changes are very real in our lives. Eclipses travel through the same signs about every 18-19 years. During this period the changes in my life have been considerable. I built a business and sold it. I met a man, fell in love, married and then lost him to leukemia. I moved back to my beloved California to rejoin old friends and meet new, wonderful people. I wrote many ybooks and built a thriving consultation business.

How much has changed in your life over that period?

This coming eclipse is here to bring more change and to help us towards our goals. The energy is strongest for change for the months following the eclipse but the seeds planted during that time can grow into an entirely new life experience for you.

The eclipse is a time to begin to do different things.

Here’s what to do.

Step 1: Write down your vision for the future. It could be as simple as a few bullet points or a long description of what you want.

Step 2: Do as many different things as you can that are related to your vision. Is having a love in your life part of your vision? Then go try “speed dating” or find a match-making service or join online dating. Want a new job? Post your resume, apply for some positions, get a side gig that can grow into a full time career. Want to move? Go see some places you could live, engage the help of a realtor, put your house up for sale. Each different thing you do is a seed planted that can grow into what you want your life to be.

Step 3: Release your vision into the hands of the Universe. Let it go. Then allow yourself to be open to what happens next. The results will be remarkable.

Want to know more? Join us for the upcoming New Moon Wishes teleclass where we’ll talk in depth about the energy of this coming eclipse.

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Mercury Retrograde – Time to Assess Progress on Your Goals

When Mercury is retrograde we’re drawn into the past. We travel through territory we’ve been through before. This is a perfect time for a mini life assessment.

I can feel some of you resisting this idea. In fact, I stiffen up a little at the thought for two reasons really. First, it doesn’t feel like there’s time. Mercury retrograde is a hectic period where we’re juggling more than usual. But also when we look at our plan to achieve our goals and what’s not working in that process it opens up room for doubt. So instead of assessing I often grit my teeth and struggle to move forward while the energy of the planet Mercury is moving backward. It’s like trying to walk uphill in a windstorm.

In the Astrology chart, the Sun represents you, your talents and abilities and Mercury represents your thoughts and ideas. It’s Mercury that’s going backward, not the Sun. The Sun never goes retrograde. What this says to us is it’s useful to doubt an idea but never useful to doubt ourselves.

During this period of retrograde energy take a look at your plans and the actions you’ve been taking towards your goals. Look at what’s been effective and what isn’t working and needs to be discarded. If you’re not getting results look at new strategies. But in this process don’t doubt your capabilities. You have what you need to achieve your goals. Mercury retrograde is just here to help you find a better, faster way.

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Mercury goes Retrograde Today

Hi everyone, Mercury is retrograde today and so for the next few weeks we have the opportunity to go back over stuff that we’ve done before – now with the potential of much better results. Here’s a few things to do now that Mercury is retrograde…

  • Eat healthy
  • Exercise
  • Resume learning a language
  • Reach out to past customers and clients
  • Review recurring bills and see what can be eliminated
  • Deal with paperwork by filing or shredding

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The Two Reasons Stuff is Hard to Get Rid Of: Decluttering and Time Travel

This morning I was making the bed as usual and as usual, I shoved the blue exercise ball out of the way to reach the far corner of the bed to straighten the duvet. This is the exercise ball that I haven’t used in two years that I roll out of the way every morning.

“Why do I still have this exercise ball?” Two reasons.

Attachment to the past

And fear of the future

I, like many of you, loved Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I love the idea of only having things in my life that spark joy. But I struggle with the items that have positive memories from the past and/or could be useful in the future. I waffle between a vision of freedom I would have when I have less stuff and the desire remember the past and be prepared for what’s to come.

After I reduced my wardrobe (see my post Getting Dressed in 3 Minutes) I saw how much time and energy our stuff really sucks from our lives. Looking at this blue exercise ball you wouldn’t think this is taking up time and energy but there’s a whole set of questions that must be answered about this object.

Where should I put it so I will use it?

Where should I store it when I’m not using it?

If it’s not meeting my needs could it be changed or improved so it will?

Could it serve multiple purposes?

Should it be replaced with something that I would use?

One or more of these questions go through my mind every time I shove the exercise ball aside to make the bed, so once a day. That’s a lot of mental energy used up. Neuroscience research tells us that the more decisions we make on mundane things the less energy we have for decisions about real things. (You can see more about this in the amazing book, The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal). So if I spend all my energy on decisions about what to wear, where to put stuff, what toothpaste to buy and what to watch on TV then I don’t have energy for important decisions like who to vote for, who to marry, what my next book should be about and what to do with my life.

As mentioned, hanging on to things that don’t “spark joy” is done for two reasons; attachment to the past and fear of the future. Here’s my blue exercise ball as an example.

The past: There was a time when I was young enough and fit enough that I could balance on a ball like this and if I fell off I didn’t risk breaking a hip. Sometimes I wish for the past body I used to have. These days I would have to set the phone right by the ball so when I did fall off I would hopefully land on the button that speed dials 911.

I have other memories too. Once I had a party here and so many people showed up that I ran out of chairs. I sat on this exercise ball while we talked, ate, and had a wonderful time. So the ball gives me the feeling of being social and having friends. I have to remind myself I would actually still have friends even if I didn’t have a blue exercise ball. Sometimes my brain is not rational.

The future: Am I envisioning a future where I suddenly have an overwhelming desire to use the exercise ball? Yes, in this future I use it every day for years and years. It becomes the best thing in my life and if I hadn’t kept it I would be missing out on this marvelous experience and perhaps a shot at Cirque du Soleil stardom.

Or do I see a future dystopian nightmare where the world has become so poor there’s no money for furniture at all and I’ll I have left is this blue exercise ball to sit on?

Yes, a bit of an exaggeration but my point is that when I define my feelings about an object I can see more clearly why I’m having trouble getting rid of it.

So if the past and the future aren’t good reasons for keeping something then I need to look at the present. In the present, I don’t need a blue exercise ball or any color ball for that matter. And someone else in the world might need it. So into the car it goes and it will be taken over to my favorite Goodwill store that sells off many other of my former possessions.

One item down…several thousand to go. I know the process will get easier and faster as I continue. Let me know about your letting go process. Do you have items you’re holding on to even though they don’t serve your present needs? Do you struggle with items that bring up memories of the past? Do you hang on to items because you think you might need them in the future? And let me know if you would like to see more posts on this topic.

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How to Get Dressed in 3 Minutes – Feng Shui Your Closet

Here was me a few years ago. Getting dressed took forever. I would pull on a pair of pants and a top and look in the mirror and think “yuck”. I threw the top on the bed and grabbed a blouse. “Better”, I would think, “but it doesn’t go with these pants”. So with different pants on, I felt I needed different shoes. Change socks and shoes. But now my cardigan doesn’t go with this blouse. Maybe I could do a blazer. Now, these pants aren’t right. And so on. Thirty minutes to an hour each morning with a pile of clothes left on the bed and me out there shopping every weekend thinking if I just add another piece to the closet I won’t have this problem anymore. Yet no matter how many pieces I added I ended up wasting time each morning and wearing the same pieces over and over. It was making me crazy.

In 2014 I was scrolling through YouTube and I came across a video where a woman was describing how she reduced the number of pieces of clothing she owned from something like 400 to just 100 items. I was intrigued. I had been downsizing my houses for the last decade but my wardrobe didn’t seem to be getting any smaller. I went online to learn more.

There I found Project 333. Project 333 was created by blogger, Courtney Carver. This is the concept of limiting yourself to just 33 pieces of clothing that you wear for three months. Eventually, this came be called a Capsule Wardrobe. The 33 pieces do not include underwear, sleepwear, workout clothes and special occasion clothes. You wear 33 pieces and the rest of your wardrobe gets stored until the next season. Now my interest was really peaked.

I continued exploring and in February 2015 I came upon Jennifer L. Scott who did a TEDx talk about her ten-item wardrobe. Ten items! That’s where I drew the line. I decide 30 pieces sounded good to me. But to further reduce my wardrobe I decided that instead of four seasons – because I’m in Orange County and we don’t have seasons, we only have climate – I would do two seasons, spring/summer and fall/winter. Today I have about 60 pieces of clothing (again not including underwear, sleepwear, my t-shirts and yoga pants, a few formal pieces for weddings and funerals and a big wool coat that I keep in case a stray asteroid knocks the earth out of its orbit and creates another ice age).

By the way, if you’re feeling really sartorially extreme check out Matilda Kahl who wore the same outfit every day to work for three years.

I started cleaning out the closet. In my research, I found a suggestion of turning all the hangers backward. When I wore a piece I would rehang it the usual way. At the end of a couple of months, I could see what I was wearing and what I wasn’t. I got rid of what I wasn’t wearing. This whittled down my wardrobe for the current season. The out of season stuff was in boxes in the garage.

After a few months of reducing my clothing choices, I decided to use the “ribbon method”. I tied a ribbon on the clothes rod in the center. I put all my clothes to the right. After wearing an item I put it to the left of the ribbon. This way I know I am wearing each piece of clothing. After a few months, I noticed that a couple of pieces were always the last ones I wore. Turns out I really didn’t like those pieces so I got rid of those too.

October arrived and I pulled out the box of clothes I had put away the February before (that’s when spring comes in OC, February). It was like Christmas had come early. I consider myself fairly bright but I didn’t remember owning any of these clothes. I suddenly had a whole new wardrobe.

I cleaned and put away the spring/summer clothes and loaded the closet with all the fall/winter clothes. Then I repeated the process first turning the hangers backward and seeing what I really did wear. After a few months, when my wardrobe was paired down, I used to ribbon method to make sure I was wearing every piece.

At first, I thought people would notice that I seemed to be wearing the same things over and over. But all I heard from people was how nice I looked. I received more compliments on my clothes and my style than I ever had in my life.

There have been more amazing benefits. Now I have clothes I love and because there are so few items in my closet I choose items that mix and match. I decided to only wear a few colors, my favorite colors. I may look good in pink but I don’t like the color. So now I don’t buy pink clothes. I stick to black, white, blue and brown. I choose dark slacks, patterned tops and flowing cardigans and vests. In addition, I have a small collection of statement necklaces and simple earrings. Now I get dressed in under three minutes every day and feel great.

Another perk is I don’t shop as much. I have my 30 pieces. Unless I specifically need to replace a piece I don’t have any reason to buy more clothes. I might admire something but then I think of what I have in my closet and most of the time I already have something like it. I also don’t buy things that don’t go with at least five or six other things I already own.

And still another thing is I wear everything in my closet. Before I probably only wore about 20% of the pieces I owned. Which means the variety of what I wear now is about the same as it was before. It just takes me a lot less time to decide.

The final step was I got rid of all the extra hangers. There was no reason to have the 200+ extra hangers so those all got donated. Now when I want to bring a new piece of clothing into the house I first decide what I’m going to get rid of so I can free up a hanger.

This entire process has saved me so much time and money. More importantly, I feel in control of my closet. Anything that can help us feel a little more in control of our lives is wonderful. I don’t worry about what I’m going to wear tomorrow. I know when I go into my closet anything I grab will look and feel great.

This has left more creative energy for my writing, classes, and videos. I have truly Feng Shui-ed my closet. Now what’s in my closet really supports my goals of saving time and money as well as my aspiration of having things in my life that bring me joy.

By the way, I did a video on this back in January 2015. My video production skills have improved a lot since then but here’s the link in case you want to see it.

And let me know if you have a capsule wardrobe or if you plan to start one.

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The Two Types of Feng Shui Crystals and What They’re Used For

There are two types of Feng Shui crystals widely used as remedies to shift the energy. Even though they are both called “Feng Shui Crystal” they are of different properties and have different uses.

First came the clear quartz crystal. This is a natural mineral that grows in a six-sided shape. It does come in many colors (like rose quartz, amethyst, and citrine) and these have various uses. But for this post, we’re talking about clear quartz. Quartz crystals have electric properties and have been used in watches and as phonograph needles. In the 1950’s scientists found how to grow synthetic quartz crystals and this is what’s used in modern electronics.

Natural quartz has one pointed end and one rough end. This is called a single terminated crystal. These can be natural and translucent or highly polished and clear with just a few inclusions.In Feng Shui single terminated crystals are often used to move energy in a direction. For example, you can use a single terminated quartz crystal to point energy towards a door bringing more opportunities to that location.

You can find polished crystal points with points at both ends. This is called a double terminated crystal. In Feng Shui, a double terminated crystal is used to move energy in two directions. For example, if there’s a missing corner of a home (and therefore creating much work for the people who live there) this crystal can be used to fill in the corner.

There are also tumbled quartz crystals. These are round like river rocks but translucent. In Feng Shui, a tumbled crystal can be used as a marker bringing energy and attention to a specific point. This is useful for houses that are hidden or on a dead-end street.

The second type of crystal came later. For a long time, it was called an Austrian Crystal. It is made of cut glass. Originally they were made from leaded glass but concerns about lead oxide have caused manufacturers to substitute other oxides such as barium oxide for the lead. These glass orbs are cut with facets which give them a prismatic effect. When light hits them they make rainbows on the walls and ceiling.

In Feng Shui, we often use these crystals to bring in opportunities that come in manageable parts. This is great for people who want steady business, consistent clients or who don’t want to become overwhelmed by opportunities. For example, a client may wish to have a hit record. The cut glass Feng Shui crystal would be used in their music studio to attract a great producer for the album, some publicity for the launch, building of their fan base and getting radio plays. The rainbow the crystal produces represents the different parts of the goal.

I hope this helps. Let me know if you have questions about this or any other Feng Shui, Astrology or Space Clearing topics. And by the way, check out my YouTube channel for videos on some of these topics.

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