Halloween – The Best Day for Releasing a Bad Habit

Halloween is a day of letting go.On this day we have an opportunity to let go of an aspect of ourselves that no longer serves us. This could be a bad habit, a bad choice that still haunts us, or some difficult memories.

For this, you need a black candle, a fire-proof bowl, some scraps of paper and a pencil.  Light the candle and write what you wish to let go of on a piece of paper.

As you write really feel how much you want to let go. You might write “I want to let go of the need to eat junk food” or “I want to let go of five pounds” or “I want to let go of blocks to money” or “I want to let go of the painful memory of me messing up at work”.  And then burn the piece of paper in the candle flame. As it burns and the smoke rises feel a sense of relief and peace.

Continue until you run out of things to let go of or you run out of paper.

Afterwards have a little food, preferably something traditional like an apple, pomegranate or some cooked squash. Happy Halloween

Xander at Halloween


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There’s No Such Thing as a Neutral Office Environment

Time to clean up your office? If you have papers stacked to a dizzing height, cluttered shelves behind you and sitcky notes attached all around the screen of your monitor it’s all screaming at you with the message – you’re ineffective.

A somewhat messy office

Stop the negative feedback loop of the messy office.

You office space either supports your productivity and success or it depletes your energy and zaps your confidence. Time to clean things up.

Sell, toss, donate or shred the excess and open up opportunities for money to flow in. Want more information about Feng Shui? Check out my website at http://www.fengshuiform.com/

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Why You Need an Astrology Calendar

I probably reach for my Astrology calendar a couple times a day. So I encourage anyone who is studying Astrology or even just interested in Astrology to get one.  Here’s why I think it’s so vital.

Here’s a link to check out the calendar for 2018. Let me know if you have questions.

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Move Your Bed Away from the Window

There are a lot of rules for bed placement in Feng Shui and most of them have really sound reasons behind them. Here’s an example of poor bed placement.

Head of bed placed up against a windowThis is a perfectly lovely room but the bed is placed incorrectly.

When a window goes all the way to the floor it can leave the sleeper feeling vulnerable. Someone outside could just stand at the window, staring down at you in the bed. Even if you’re not thinking it (and now you are) your subsconscious mind knows this position feels uncomfortable and your sleep won’t be as restful.

What if your bedroom is on the second floor? The rule still applies. Windows that go all the way to the floor should not be the “headboard” for the bed.

Want more Feng Shui? Check out my book, Feng Shui Form.

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Rose Quartz will not help you find love

There is a lot of information out there on gemstones and particularly Rose Quartz. Much of this has morphed over the years into some really incorrect information.

I’m here to help straighten out the confusion when it comes to the powerful stone, Rose Quartz.

Rose Quartz Heart

Rose Quartz is a form of quartz that has a soft pink color. You can find it in it’s natural state, carved into many shapes (hearts being one of the most popular) and incorporated into jewelry. Rose Quartz is usually reasonably priced and easy to come by.

There are some important things to know when using Rose Quartz in your home.

Rose Quartz should not be used to attract a love relationship.


It’s true. Rose Quartz is a fine stone for helping your existing relationship. It can make the interation between the two of you more peaceful and pleasant. But for attracting a new love, Rose Quartz is not your best choice. The quiet, peaceful energy of Rose Quartz will attract a passive partner, one who waits for you to make all the moves.

Rose Quartz

And another thing, if you’re recovering from illness keep Rose Quartz out of your bedroom. Rose Quartz is a stone ideally used for meditation and to bring peace of mind but that means it can pull you out of your body. When you’re not in your body you can’t focus on your healing. If you’re recovering from illness then remove Rose Quartz from your bedroom.

So what is Rose Quartz good for?

Rose Quartz is fabulous for deepening meditation. If you meditate, want to meditate or even just like the idea of meditating then having some Rose Quartz around is great. It helps you still your mind.

Rose Quartz is good for sleep. If you have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep this is the gemstone for you. Keep some in your bedroom on your nightstand.

And as mentioned above, it promotes a peaceful, loving relationship with your current partner.

I would love to hear your thoughts and comments about this powerful gemstone. Let me know how you use Rose Quartz in your home.


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Fire and Water: for people who argue in the kitchen – a Feng Shui Tip

Kitchen example of Fire near WaterIn today’s trend of simplifying life by having smaller houses and therefore smaller kitchens we can run into some Feng Shui issues. This kitchen shows a problem and a solution. In Feng Shui we talk about the five elements. These elements can existing in a positive, creative cycle or in a destructive negative cycle. What we see in this picture is the sink (Water) next to the stove (Fire). Water destroys Fire. How this manifests in the home is by bringing discord, arguments, and periods of high energy and followed by very low energy.

There’s a solution shown in the picture. We can put these two elements on the creative cycle by adding the element of Wood.  We could use something made of wood, a plant or an object with the color green (as shown here). Now the elements flow together. Water creates Wood and Wood creates Fire. Problem solved.

If you want to know more about the Five Elements in Chinese Astrology check out my recorded webinar on the topic.

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Halloween Approaches Which Means More Ghosts: Here’s what to do about it

Halloween isn’t what it used to be. It is an ancient holiday that signals the veil between the living and dead is at it’s thinist. This means you can experience more ghost activity in your home. This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll see apparitions, though many can see something out of the corner of their eye that vanishes when they turn to look.  What many people experience is heightened irritability, trouble sleeping, an intense feeling of anxiety with no cause and an uncontrollable anger that pops up out of nowhere.

Clearing the house is one solution to calm and clear this paranormal activity. Here are three easy ways to clear the energy of your home.

Small Sage Bundle Burning

  1. Smudge the house. This is a Native American inspired method of space clearing. You take a bundle of white sage (easily found at Whole Foods or your local health food store) and you light the bundle. It will flame for a moment and then it will smolder. The rising smoke clears the energy. Carry the smudge stick from room to room. Want to know more? Here’s a link to my best-selling booklet on Smudging.
  2. Use sound to clear your home. Find a pleasant sounding bell you can ring in the house. Start at the front door and then move through the house ringing the bell loudly. Go through the entire house finishing where you started at the front door. You can use a bell or a singing bowl.
  3. Salt works too. Dissolve sea salt or Himalayan pink salt in warm water and add to a spray bottle. You can walk through the house spraying the mixture into the air to clear the energy.

Any of these methods will work. Choose the one you feel most comfortable with. You may have to clear more than once during the month of October. And then follow up with a clearing either monthly or at least once a quarter.

Let me know how you clear your home. And which of these methods you find the most effective.

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